My boyfriend will not go down on me. We have been together for 6 months and he has yet to go down on me. When we first started dating, it didn't really bother me. He always had a good excuse (e.g. he had just been to the dentist and his gums were sore; he had just had fish and chips for lunch).
For the first couple of months, I decided to give him some leeway and didn't make a big deal about it. But now it is bothering me more and more. I am often unable to climax because he does not seem to know, or care, where my clit is. He tells me that it is not his fault that his penis is unable to reach my love button.
I really like this guy. He is cute, has a good body and tells me that he loves me. I am not prepared to break up with him over this issue. Yet, in order to come, I really feel like I need a tongue in my pussy. Can you help?
Lick-less and Fancy-fee
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Dear Lick-less,
I have only one question: do you go down on him? If you do, the answer to this problem is very easy: go on a blow-job strike. Refuse to suck him until he is at least willing to lick you clean.
If you are not giving him oral pleasure...what the hell is wrong with him? Do you fake orgasm during sex, or does he just not care that he is not getting you off? A couple of things to consider.
I suggest some desensitization. You can't expect him to go from tactile stimulation to oral stimulation in a week. Start off by telling him how hot you get when your clit is sucked and not fucked. How you are much more in the mood to experiment. How less inhibited you are.
Then use positive reinforcement. Reward him every time his mouth comes closer to your pussy. Make a big deal about how happy you are that he is willing to do what it takes to get you off. And then show him how happy you are.
I suggest a lick for a lick. For every time he even remotely orally stimulates you, do the same for him. Men are suprisingly easy to train.
One other thing: I do not like him placing blame on you because he is unable to reach your "love button." Show him where your love button is. Then he can no longer use that excuse.
Maybe he really doesn't know. But know this: it is NOT your fault. The next time he tries to pull that line with you, tell him it is not your fault that his penis is not big enough to stimulate you. Men are very sensitive about the size of their members. Don't belittle him, but don't take his crap, either.
His inability to even attempt to satisfy you orally may be a symptom of a much bigger issue. Tread with caution. There is a time and a place to have this conversation - DO NOT talk to him about this issue while you are in bed.
Have fun,
Tango
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